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When you become a parent, being able to “do it all” seems to be the goal. However, even after just a few years of raising a child, you’ll realize how overwhelming it can be without the right support system. You might fear you’re not fulfilling all the roles you’re supposed to and feel anxious about failing your kid.

The good news is that it gets better when you find a village to raise your children in.

The Beauty of Village Parenting

The phrase “it takes a village to raise a child” has been gaining popularity again, prompting discussion of village parenting practices and principles. The idea is that you should raise children within a community of caring adults, alongside you as parents.

Village parenting could also be described as alloparenting, which means allowing children to be cared for by adults who aren’t the biological parents. Think of grandparents, aunts, uncles and trustworthy friends who could help with dividing up responsibilities.

Staying close to home is relatively common among adults, as a 2022 survey found that 55% of U.S. adults live within an hour of extended family. Proximity is a great way to make village parenting just a bit easier.

4 Main Reasons Why Parents Need a Village

Inherently, it’s not wrong to support yourself and your kid. However, all people need help sometimes. These are four reasons why parents should consider letting their village support them.

1. To Give Your Child a Community of Role Models

Every parent hopes their kids grow up to be happy, kind and responsible. Putting your best foot forward is a great start. That said, surrounding your kid with a village of different people gives them more ideas and inspiration for who they can grow up to be.

2. To Assist With Changing Parenting Dynamics

Sometimes, you and your spouse or co-parent can no longer see eye-to-eye. However, you should still coordinate on major decisions regarding your child’s welfare, no matter what. Having a village can help your kid navigate more complex parenting dynamics and provide stability. You can also have them hold you accountable for prioritizing your kid.

3. To Teach Your Kids How to Make Connections

Building relationships is a fundamental part of growing up. Introducing your child to a village can help them learn about what it’s like to come out of their shell and interact with other people. Teach them how to say hello and be polite.

4. To Avoid Parental Burnout

Having a village can do wonders for your kid, but very few realize the impact that it can have on a parent. A 2025 study concluded that a lack of a supportive family background can make parents vulnerable to parental burnout. Prevent emotional detachment and overwhelming exhaustion by finding a support system.

How to Seek Community Support

Knowing you need a village is one thing, but creating that village is another. However, you should feel confident that you can build a close circle with time and energy.

Look for Your People

Here’s who you can connect with for the core of your village:

• Family: Extended family members like grandparents, aunts and uncles should feel more than happy to be in your kid’s life and help out when needed. Older cousins may also take care of your little one every once in a while.

• Friends: Some close friends go the extra mile to look out for your kid, however they can. You can also confide in them about any parenting problems you may need help with.

• Educators: Your kid likely already interacts with their teachers, counselors, or sports coaches. Converse and learn how you can support your child in that aspect of their life.

Remember to Ask for Help

Some folks can feel like they’re intruding if they intervene and initiate with parenting help. Explicitly ask for assistance when you need it. Request advice, or ask trusted adults to look out for your kid. They’re likely more than happy to do so — you just need to say the words out loud.

Check in With Your Kid

Your child’s comfort should come first at all times. If they seem stressed around certain adults, go the extra mile to ask how they’re feeling and why. You might have to confront another individual or size down your village, but it’s worth it to make sure your kid is safe.

Provide Help to Other Parents

Being part of a village goes both ways. Try to help any other parents who might need support with their kids, or just anyone who may feel overwhelmed by life. Sometimes, you learn a thing or two during the process. Plus, you get an extra set of eyes and ears that you could trust.

Navigate Parenthood With Your People

No man is an island, and no parents deserve to shoulder all this responsibility alone. Learn to open your doors and communicate with the people in your life and your child’s life. It can make a difference in your child’s upbringing in the long run.

Author bio:  Cora Gold is the Editor-in-Chief of women’s lifestyle magazine, Revivalist. She strives to live a happy and healthy life with her family by her side.
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The start of a new school year often brings higher expectations and plenty of conversations about grades. While report cards matter, focusing solely on results can make learning feel like a race rather than a journey. Recognizing effort helps students stay motivated long after the excitement of back-to-school fades.

When you celebrate how a child learns, not just the final score, you encourage habits that support lifelong success. The good news is that making this shift doesn’t require changing everything you already do.

Acknowledge Effort as Much as Results

It’s natural to celebrate an A on a test or a perfect project, and those achievements deserve recognition. However, grades only show the outcome. They don’t always reflect the persistence, problem-solving or resilience that helped a student get there.

When you notice the work behind the result, you reinforce behaviors students can control. Maybe they asked thoughtful questions, practiced every evening or kept trying after making mistakes. Those actions build confidence because students learn that improvement comes from consistent effort, not luck or natural talent. This approach also encourages students to take on challenges and not avoid them out of fear of failure.

Help Students Develop a Growth Mindset

Research by psychologist Carol Dweck found that students with a growth mindset consistently outperform those with a fixed mindset because they see intelligence as something that can improve through effort and learning. They often respond to challenges with persistence, looking for new strategies and putting in the effort needed to improve.

Instead of saying, “You’re so smart,” try recognizing what led to success. For example:

• “I noticed how you kept working even when the assignment became difficult.”
• “Your extra practice really paid off.”
• “You found a different strategy when the first one didn’t work.”

These comments connect success to actions students can repeat. As this mindset grows, mistakes become part of the learning process, encouraging students to stay persistent and continue improving.

Make Recognition Consistent and Specific

Recognition has the greatest impact when it becomes a regular habit. Whether you’re a parent or educator, look for small moments to acknowledge positive learning behaviors throughout the week.

Completing homework without reminders, helping a classmate or improving on last week’s quiz all deserve attention. Specific recognition is often the most meaningful because it shows students that you’re paying attention to their effort and the choices they made. For example, you could say, “I noticed you kept practicing even when the assignment was challenging,” or “You asked thoughtful questions today, and that helped you better understand the lesson.”

Create Everyday Opportunities to Celebrate Progress

You don’t need elaborate reward systems to praise effort. Small, consistent moments often leave the strongest impression. Learning behaviors such as answering questions, asking for clarification and participating in class discussions are all worth celebrating.

Actively participating helps students process and remember new information more effectively while showing they’re engaged in learning. If speaking up doesn’t come naturally, acknowledge other forms of participation, such as thoughtful written responses or questions shared privately with the teacher.

Here are a few simple ideas to help you engage with all kinds of learners:

• Ask, “What challenged you today?” instead of only asking about grades.
• Celebrate improvement, even if the final score isn’t perfect.
• Encourage students to reflect on what strategy helped them succeed.
• Keep a journal of weekly accomplishments beyond academic results.
• Recognize kindness, teamwork and persistence alongside academic growth.

These conversations help students see their own progress and appreciate how far they’ve come. As they begin focusing on personal growth, they’re more likely to stay motivated, build confidence and measure success by the effort they put into learning, not just the results they achieve.

Keep Grades in Perspective

Recognizing effort doesn’t mean lowering expectations or pretending grades don’t matter. Academic performance remains an important measure of understanding and helps identify areas where students may need additional support. Grades are most valuable when they’re part of a broader conversation about learning, growth and progress.

The U.S. Department of Education reports that chronic absenteeism affected more than 14 million students during the 2021–22 school year, reinforcing the value of creating learning environments that keep students engaged.

Recognizing preparation, persistence and curiosity can help students feel more connected to learning and motivated to stay engaged, even when assignments become more challenging. That mindset often supports stronger academic performance as students continue learning, work through setbacks and build confidence over time.

Build Motivation to Last Beyond the School Year

Back-to-school season is the perfect opportunity to build habits that support learning all year long. Every encouraging conversation, thoughtful observation and moment of recognition reminds students that the effort they put in each day has value.

When students see you notice their persistence, improvement and hard work, they become more confident and willing to take on new challenges. Those qualities can lead to stronger academic performance this school year while laying the foundation for lifelong learning and success.

Tessa Dodson is the Senior Writer at Classrooms.com and a former career coach dedicated to supporting teachers and students with practical and accessible educational resources.

When she’s not writing, you can find her diving into research or catching up with her latest read.

A slammed bedroom door. A missed assignment. Another midnight scroll. Parents can read all three as evidence that something is wrong. Usually, the more useful question is whether the change keeps returning and starts to interfere with daily life.

Parents looking for teen mental health help are often caught between two fears: overreacting to ordinary adolescence and missing something important. A calm review of mood, sleep, school, relationships, safety, and daily functioning can show whether the next step is a conversation or outside support.

For families, a persistent pattern that has been observed and discussed may justify researching help for struggling teens with guidance from a pediatrician, licensed mental health professional, or school support team. Looking at options does not mean jumping to intensive care. The right level depends on the teen’s needs, safety, functioning, and family context. 

Look for a pattern, not a single moment

Teenagers can be irritable, private, impulsive, or withdrawn while navigating stress and growing independence. A warning sign is not simply behavior an adult dislikes. It is a meaningful change from that teen’s usual pattern, especially when it lasts for weeks, disrupts functioning, or raises safety concerns.¹

Four questions can help organize what you see:

• Change: Is the behavior new or clearly unlike the teen’s usual temperament and habits?
• Duration: Has it continued beyond a brief reaction to a setback, conflict, or poor sleep?
• Reach: Does it appear in several settings, including home, school, activities, or friendships?
• Impact: Is it disrupting responsibilities, relationships, self-care, or safety?

Patterns worth noting may include:

• Noticeable changes in sleep, appetite, energy, grooming, or self-care
• Sadness, fear, anger, numbness, or hopeless comments that persist or intensify
• A sharp decline in attendance, grades, responsibilities, or interest in usual activities
• Withdrawal from supportive people or repeated conflict across several settings
• Risky behavior, substance use, or comments about death or self-harm

No item on this list proves that a teen has a mental health condition. Concern rises when several changes cluster, persist, worsen, or interfere with daily functioning. A sudden and severe change can also matter before a longer pattern develops.

Screen time may be context, not the explanation

Screen use is often the loudest part of the family conflict, but content, timing, and function usually tell more than the hour count. A device can expose a teen to harassment, exclusion, social comparison, or upsetting content. It can also provide connection and support. Late-night use can crowd out sleep, and repeated exposure to harmful content can intensify distress.² The screen may be part of the pattern without being the whole explanation.

The sequence around the device may be more informative than the hour count. Notice what happens before and after use. Does mood shift following a particular chat? Is the phone replacing sleep, meals, schoolwork, or in-person contact? Has the teen abruptly left a favorite platform after receiving messages? These details add context, not a diagnosis.

Reasonable digital boundaries can protect family routines. A screen rule may address bedtime, however, while leaving bullying, panic, grief, or another concern untouched.

Similar behavior can have different roots

The same outward behavior can come from academic pressure, bullying, family conflict, grief, poor sleep, physical illness, medication effects, substance use, neurodevelopmental needs, anxiety, depression, trauma, or several of these at once.¹ ³ Context matters because the response that helps one teen may miss the problem entirely for another.

That is why the first task is context, not classification.

A thorough assessment may consider medical history, sleep, medications, substance use, development, school life, and family circumstances. That broader view is more useful than starting with a label.

Open a conversation without creating an interrogation

A calm moment usually gives parents more information than a confrontation. Start with what you have observed, not what you think it means: “I’ve noticed you stopped going to practice and you’re awake most of the night. I’m concerned. What has been going on?”

Listen long enough to hear the answer. Avoid stacking questions, correcting every detail, or making phone access the price of talking. Some teens find it easier to speak while walking, driving, or sitting side by side. One conversation may open only a small door.

Safety is the exception to a slow pace. When words or behavior raise concern, ask plainly, “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” and “Do you feel safe right now?” Asking directly does not increase suicidal thoughts and can open the door to an honest safety conversation.⁵ An unclear or alarming answer is enough reason to seek prompt professional support. Do not promise secrecy when someone’s safety may be at risk.

Staying calm does not require dropping household limits. It means separating the boundary from the judgment. A parent can hold a rule while remaining curious about what is driving the behavior. 

Match support to the level of need

Seeking teen mental health help makes sense when changes persist, worsen, keep returning, or disrupt school, relationships, self-care, or safety. It also makes sense when family conversations no longer clarify or stabilize the situation.

A pediatrician or primary care clinician can consider physical causes and mental health needs. School staff may add context about attendance, learning, or peer changes. A licensed therapist can assess symptoms and daily functioning. Support may range from school adjustments and outpatient care to family work, substance-use services, or more structured treatment. Intensive care is not the default and should follow an individualized assessment.

Support should match severity, daily functioning, safety, and the teen’s response over time. Primary care guidelines recommend structured assessment, safety planning, active monitoring, and coordination with mental health specialists when symptoms are persistent, impairing, or severe.³ ⁴ A plan may begin with outpatient support and change as the teen’s needs become clearer.

When safety changes the timeline

Safety concerns override a wait-and-see approach. Treat statements about suicide or self-harm, a plan or access to lethal means, a suspected overdose, severe injury, violent behavior that cannot be safely contained, or loss of contact with reality as urgent.

Stay with the teen when it is safe to do so, limit access to immediate hazards when you can do that safely, and contact emergency or crisis support. This is frightening, and no caregiver should have to manage an immediate crisis alone.

A calmer way to read the pattern

Teen behavior rarely arrives with a clear label. Parents do not need to decode every mood or police every minute online. They need to notice sustained change, ask with compassion, respond to impaired functioning, and match support to the teen in front of them.

A careful response cannot promise a quick turnaround, but it can replace guessing with clearer information and safer decisions. Progress often develops through small adjustments, honest follow-up, and more than one conversation.

This article is for general education and cannot diagnose a condition or determine the right level of care. A qualified healthcare professional can assess an individual teen.

Author Bio

Earl Wagner is a health content strategist focused on behavioral systems, clinical communication, and data-informed healthcare education.

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Fraudulent text alerts, a scam also known as “smishing,” are becoming more common. These deceptive messages create a sense of urgency among receivers, tricking you into revealing personal information or sending money. They often impersonate legitimate organizations like banks, government agencies or popular retailers.

You must know how to spot these scams, protect your data and teach your family to be savvy digital citizens.

What Is Smishing and Why Is It a Threat?

“Smishing” is a clever term for phishing scams sent via text message. Think of it as a digital con artist knocking on your phone’s door. Scammers send deceptive texts under the pretense of being an organization you can trust, like your bank, a delivery service or even a government agency. The goal is simple and malicious — to trick you into clicking a dangerous link, downloading harmful software or revealing sensitive data like passwords and financial information.

Families are prime targets because they often include members with various levels of digital know-how, from tech-native teens to less-wary grandparents who juggle multiple electronic devices between them.

How to Spot a Fraudulent Text

Scammers are clever, but too often rely on the same playbook. By familiarizing yourself with their tactics, you can empower your family to spot a fraudulent text more easily. These fraudsters design their messages to bypass your rational thinking by triggering an emotional response, such as panic or curiosity.

Instead of immediately taking the bait, pausing and looking for the telltale signs of a scam will stand you in good stead. Nowadays, scammers may impersonate law enforcement officers and even family members.

Trusting your gut is a good place to start, but knowing the specific red flags provides a concrete defense against these digital intruders. These are the most common signs that a text is a trap.

Unexpected Urgency

Scammers manufacture a crisis to rush you into making a mistake. You might get a text claiming that your account is locked, that a payment has failed or that a suspicious purchase was made with your card. These messages demand immediate action under false pretenses. Remember, legitimate organizations rarely use such high-pressure tactics or threaten you via text.

Suspicious Links and Attachments

A core rule of digital safety is to never click unexpected links or attachments in unsolicited text messages. These are the primary tools scammers use to inflict damage. That innocent-looking link could lead to a convincing but fake website designed to steal your password, while an attachment could install malware directly onto your device to harvest your data. If it’s a legitimate message, you can verify it through the organization’s official channels.

Generic Greetings and Grammatical Errors

Legitimate companies you deal with should know your name. If you receive a text with a vague opening like “Dear Valued Customer” or “Hello Sir/Madam,” be highly suspicious. Scan the message for obvious spelling mistakes and poor grammar, as these errors are a red flag that the text is unprofessional and almost certainly fraudulent.

How Your Family Can Protect Itself

Knowing how to spot a scam is the first step, but taking proactive measures is how you build a digital fortress around your family. You don’t have to be a cybersecurity expert to boost your defenses against fraudsters significantly. By adopting a few simple but powerful habits, you can make your accounts and personal information much harder for criminals to access.

Here are the most effective, actionable steps your family can take to stay safe from smishing attacks.

Incorporate Multi-Factor Authentication (MFA) and Fraud Text Alerts

MFA is an effective tool in your security arsenal, acting like a second lock on your digital door by requiring two or more forms of verification to log in. As security-conscious institutions note, fraud can affect anyone, so you should implement more stringent controls on your account activity to protect your family from unauthorized third-party access. Experts say MFA makes your accounts 99% less likely to be hacked.

Verify, Then Act

When a text demands urgent action, follow the simple but powerful principle of “stop, think, and verify.” Instead of using the phone number or link in a suspicious message, go directly to the organization’s official website or call a trusted customer service number to confirm whether the alert is legitimate. This one habit can foil the scammer’s entire plan.

Teaching Kids and Teens About Text Scams

These days, teaching digital safety is as crucial as teaching road safety, especially with 90% of teens having access to smartphones. The goal is not to scare kids, but rather to empower them as smart digital citizens. Framing the topic of text scams as a life skill will build your child’s critical thinking and resilience. By having open conversations, you encourage them to react confidently to online threats. Your assistance will make you a trusted ally they can turn to, ensuring they don’t have to face risks alone.

Establish an Open-Door Policy

Create a judgment-free zone where your kids can show you a strange text without fearing punishment or losing their phone. Reassure them that you are a team and their safety is the priority. This open-door policy encourages them to report suspicious activity, potentially stopping a scam early.

Use Real-World Examples

Abstract warnings are forgettable while practical lessons stick. Find real smishing examples online and review them with your kids. Point out the red flags like the weird link, the urgent tone and the spelling errors to provide a better understanding. These hands-on activities make the lesson tangible and make it easier for them to apply the knowledge.

Apply a Family-First Approach to Fraudulent Texts

Protecting your family from text scams relies on vigilance, verification and education. Stay vigilant for red flags, directly verify requests with the source and educate your family on these simple tactics to build a powerful shield. With these habits, you can all confidently navigate the digital world.

Author Bio:
Dan Parks is a senior writer at Modded.com, specializing in education and technology content. His priority is creating actionable insights for parents and educators and making digital topics understandable. Ultimately, Dan is dedicated to empowering families to navigate the world securely and confidently.